The importance to take her in his arms
Any mother or father a family member or neighbor or the lady down the street will be dropped the recommendation: ” do not pick up the baby to spoil. ” This is not only possible in babies who do not walk (how do we feed them at all), but that is not based on scientific evidence and, moreover, could not catch them to harm their psychological development .
For decades, The effects of the deficit in physical contact with babies , especially in orphanages and babies admitted. Known as the Theory of Addiction , developed by authors such as John Bowlby, Harry Harlow, Mary Ainsworth, among others. Attachment is the emotional bond that develops the child with their caregivers and to provide emotional security necessary for good character development . He speaks of the need for baby to be near his mother , to be cradled in her arms, protected and cared for.
For those who want deeper, Maternal Love Sue Gerhardt would have to be your reference book. Gerhardt says, based on knowledge of neuroscience, that “the baby , for its development, no teaching aids or cultural needs, but it is more appropriate to simply picking your little and enjoy it. ” Brain areas in the future be responsible for social behavior, emotional regulation, coping with stress developed during the first three years of life . As has been his care, they will normally or deficiently with implications for social behavior and their future mental health. “The first sources of pleasure, smell, touch and hearing. Feel loving parent’s arms is the most important stimulus for development. ” The strokes help regulate baby’s nervous system . Also the looks are important. According to Allan Schore, an expert on trauma and affective disorders, positive eyes are the most important stimulus for the growth of social and emotional intelligence of the brain. A large number of positive experiences early in life leads to more neural connections, ie, higher performance and ability.
On the other hand, separated from the baby can be a great source of stress. Let mourn the babies and not take them systematically can be a source of trauma and prevent the development of these brain areas and can cause children more dependent, more self-regulatory difficulties less capable of coping with stress, lower self-confidence .
They are very interesting intervention in preterm infants as Kangaroo Mother Care is being developed in some neonatal services in our country. The book of Adolfo Gomez-Papi “The power of touch” can be a good complement.
From Anthropology, Medicine and Psychology is giving increasing importance to skin contact, to carry babies in arms or sling , to answer your cry, regardless of whether it is hungry, thirsty, have a diaper dirty, cold or heat.
Finally say that in my office, like those of my colleagues, people they serve not complain that their parents spoiled by catching them in his arms , but quite the contrary, they do not caught , not embraced, not attending emotionally. A high percentage of people have had psychological counseling caregivers were not able or not able to meet them in this aspect.